Posts Tagged ‘twins’

Every Mother Counts

Saturday, May 12th, 2012

Back in December, I was saddened to read the story of Michal Lura Friedman, who died just hours after giving birth to healthy boy-girl twins, as a result of complications following her C-section.

As a mom of twins myself, I couldn’t help identifying with her, and as someone who knows what an immense challenge it is to parent newborn (infant, toddler, etc.) twins, my heart went out to her husband, who would be (and still is) doing it on his own while also dealing with the horrible grief of having lost his children’s mother.

When something hits close to home, and when you can identify with the people involved, it’s easy to feel the full weight of the tragedy. It’s harder to conjure up the same kind of sympathy when you hear about death in the abstract. But this Mother’s Day, I’m trying to.

Every day close to a thousand maternal deaths just as devastating as Michal Lura Friedman’s occur. According to the World Health Organzation, 360,000 girls and women die worldwide each year from pregnancy or childbirth-related complications. In most cases, it’s due to lack of adequate medical or emergency care. And although things are worst in the poorest countries, they’re not so great right here at home, either: the US has only the 50th lowest maternal mortality rate in the world (behind all of western and some of eastern Europe).

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A Mother’s Prayer for Privacy

Thursday, April 19th, 2012

Prayer for MothersDear Lord,

Thank you for my beautiful, healthy, creative and otherwise spectacular children. I am grateful for the many blessings and profound love that they have brought to my life.

I just have a few teeny little requests:

I pray that I might be able to take a shower without one of my children coming into the bathroom, crying, to tell me that their sister hit them / pushed them / grabbed a toy or book away from them. Or telling me that they need help getting their shirt off. Or that they want a snack. Or that they’re going to poop.

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Mommy, what does “gay” mean?

Thursday, March 22nd, 2012

My girls are constantly asking me what words mean. Words that they used to just ignore or whose meaning they got well enough in context, they’re now stopping to inquire about. (Maybe it’s a five-year-old thing.) What does “assume” mean? How about “agitated”? Or “express”?

And then, about a week ago: “What does ‘gay’ mean?”

The song  “Jamaica Farewell” is on a new kids’ CD we have, and it begins: “Down the way, where the nights are gay, and the sun shines daily on the mountain top…”  The girls love it, and sing it constantly. (So constantly that their preschool teacher decided to teach it to the whole class for their graduation ceremony in June.) But it was only after a few weeks of obsession that they stopped to ask about that one particular word.

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The Problem With The Golden Rule

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

Empathy doesn’t tend to come naturally to preschoolers. I don’t know about your kids, but the only walking-in-other-people’s-shoes that my girls do on a regular basis is the literal kind. As in, they like to put on my Dansko clogs and shuffle around the house in them. (It’s only a matter of time before someone sprains an ankle.)

For some time now, we’ve been trying to get them to understand and maybe even follow the Golden Rule. (a.k.a. Do unto others….) And this year in our UU church’s religious education program, the Golden Rule happens to be the theme. So the kids are hearing about it in the context of all kinds of stories and situations. Which I like. Because, after all, part of the reason we joined a congregation is to have life lessons and values imparted by means other than just our big, blabbering mouths.

So, the gals are getting Golden Ruled up the wazoo. But there’s a slight problem. See, they—well, wait. This calls for an Adorable Anecdote. ™

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12 Great Tips for New Parents of Twins

Sunday, March 4th, 2012

I was recently trolling back through some old blog posts of mine to fix some technical-y-Search-Engine-y stuff, and came across a post I wrote last June in which I offered up some somewhat unexpected advice for new moms of twins. And it got me thinking: maybe it would be fun to get some of youradvice for new parents of multiples—along with that of some fellow Babble writers—and compile it here.

Also, I confess: I’m having a bit of a dip mood-wise (Ah, my old pal depression. I wish you’d just send postcards instead of feeling the need to visit. You may miss me, but I really don’t miss you. At all. Ever). And when I feel this way, words don’t come as easily. Whereas making cute little graphics in Photoshop (which you’ll see below) does.

Anyway, I put out the call on Facebook for your advice, and got tons of responses. ‘Twas glorious!

A lot of the same advice came up again and again: Get help. Get them on the same schedule. Hang in there. Etc. So it was hard to choose which tips to feature, but here were my favorites — all of which rang very true to me — in no particular order. Enjoy. Add your advice in the comments. And pass this along to any new or expectant parents of multiples that you know.

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